This is a hard concept to explain to a healthy person, who may have only ever felt something close to this when someone they love passes away, or they lose something they hold dear in their life.
People with BPD, even in their happiest periods, experience this pervasive feeling of emptiness almost every day, and often they try and fill this with things that stimulate them.
Relationships are our Achilles’ heel, and feel like 500 flights of stairs, but we will always embark on them with full force and disregard for our wellbeing because – to answer the person who Googled ‘Can a person with BPD really love?
’ – yes, we can and do truly love and care for the person we’re with.
Pre-rift magmatism is seen in the 64.55 Ma Jogeshwari basalt in Mumbai and 63.5–63.0 Ma intrusions in the Seychelles.
Post-rift magmatism is seen in the 60.8–60.9 Ma Manori trachyte and Gilbert Hill basalt intrusions in Mumbai and 60–61 Ma syenitic intrusions in the Seychelles.
To understand why our reactions can be so adverse, our partner needs to understand that because of our illness, we think differently in some ways to others.
This may be because it’s thought that BPD could stem from early attachment issues in childhood, so another of the main symptoms is a ‘chronic fear of abandonment (real or perceived)’.
Dropping a message before you start working for the day to say you have a busy one ahead, but you’re thinking of them and will call later, will stop the midday freak out, because they know you care about them and they know you’re OK.
If you’re unhappy with them, don’t act cold and distant – be up front and speak to them so you both understand each other and this can help them stay in control of their emotions.
One of the main criteria of diagnosing Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is difficulty maintaining relationships.
If you’re not familiar with BPD, it can be explained, briefly, as a disorder that causes a person to experience intense and unstable emotions, which doesn’t sound like a particularly appealing dating prospect.